Hypocrisy for the Holidays!

Well, as they say, “it’s that time of year again”.  Holiday music started playing the day before they put out the Halloween costumes.  Turkeys are beginning to feel safer as Thanksgiving has simply become a financial partner to introduce its big brother, Christmas.  And it must be December because I can’t leave the house between the hours of 3:30 and 10:00 without running into “the crowd”.  

"The crowd" on a good day in December

Now don’t get me wrong, I love the holidays.  But I think that things have taken a turn for the worse… and no one has noticed.

Why is it ok for the cashier at Kroger to tell me that my “Xmas Twix” (per the register) upsets her as the “Xmas” takes Christ out of Christmas?  How does she know that I’m not a Satanist planning on using my Twix in some sort of ritual to rid the world of Christmas?  Or maybe, I’m a Grinch-ist just trying to get rid of the Who’s and all that “noise, noise, noise, noise…”

Grinch-ist

I guess my point is that I really don’t need the cashier talking to me about Jesus… and I have several reasons for this. 

First of all, I don’t like talking to anyone about Jesus.  I have my own issues with my faith, or lack thereof…and I really don’t feel like discussing it with Cindy at Kroger.  “Paper or Plastic” Cindy, not “Heaven or Hell”.

How much did I save, with the coupons?

Secondly, why is it acceptable for Christians to annually assume that everyone else is on the invite list for their big end-of-the-year party?  Just because the majority of Indiana is Christian doesn’t mean that it’s 100% Christian.  Maybe I celebrate Festivus every December… or maybe I have a shrine dedicated to Elvis.  Or maybe I was heading home to start planning my Ramadan festivities for the following August.  Would they take as well to me wishing them “Happy Bodhi Day!”?

The new Merry Christmas!!

…and with all of this going on, I feel like so many have lost sight of what the Holiday season should actually focus on.  Starting with Thanksgiving, people just get into this consumer mentality for the sake of doing what’s expected of them. 

“Buy, buy, buy” to show others how much money you make…and how you can afford to spend more on them than they can spend on you.  It’s the financial equivalent of whipping it out to see whose is bigger.

Then you’ve got the people who will go out shopping and not be concerned if they cut-people off on the road, park in handicapped spots, grab the last toy, cut in line, pay with a check, and talk loudly on their cell phones during the entire process.

I guess it’s “no big deal” to inconvenience tens or possibly hundreds of people over the course of a month or two to spread a little Christmas cheer, on one day.  That’s just bad math any way you slice it. 

Do people realize the karma they’re going to reap?  I mean come on everyone, “What would Jesus do to grab the last New Moon Barbie doll?”  …and more importantly, would he be pleased to see what you’d done to grab the last New Moon Barbie doll?

Jesus loves Edward Cullen!

So let’s all take a step back, refocus, and think: “What should the holidays mean to me”?

I’ll tell you what they mean to me, and I’m not going to bullshit it at all.  I’ll start at Thanksgiving, but I don’t need a day every year to make me thankful for what I’m about to get into.

I’m not going to get into details, but I’ve had a pretty screwed up year this year.  All that aside, I’m honestly not sitting around feeling sorry for myself… and I don’t need reminded every November to count my blessings.

My most amazing blessing in the world is sleeping in the next room holding on to an early birthday present that his mom gave him.  He’s the reason that I get out of bed every day… and he still thinks that I am the coolest man on the planet.

I’m also blessed to have my health.  I will never take that for granted. 

I’m incredibly fortunate to not just have had an “amicable” split-up, but that Amber and I are still genuinely friends.  We will always have a special bond and I just can’t imagine my life without her in it… even if it’s not in the same capacity as before.

I also have a great family (including Amber) that really helped me get through losing my job and living on my own for the first time this year.  I’ve leaned on each of them at different times in different ways and I’ll never be able to fully explain what that meant for my mental well-being.

This year (on a positive note) I was able to reconnect with two of my best friends from junior high and high school.  I still really can’t believe that I’m back in touch with either of them…and it really blows my mind that we’ve all hung out twice in the last 3 weeks.  Melinda & Brandon, I don’t know about my faith… but I know that fate gave you two back to me this year when I really needed you the most.  Now, don’t go getting lost out in the world again.

So that’s (part of) what I’m thankful for… and Christmas time, which I really prefer to call the holidays, should be about spending time with family and being kind to one another.  (Of course we should all be doing that every day, but that’s an issue for another time). 

This is what it's all about

Are presents nice? Yes.  Do you have to have them to have a great holiday season? No.  Is it Christmas? Yes.  Would Jesus be upset at “Xmas” if we actually got the sentiment right? Probably not…

So let’s not all stress out on how many presents we’re giving or getting.  Let’s just all enjoy the time we have with those around us.  If they’re important or special enough to get to see during the holidays, then get the most out of the time you get to see them.  You never know who might not be sitting around the tree the next time it’s up.

December 12, 2009. Tags: , . rants, There is good in the world. 3 comments.